On a recently meet up with gal pals, we got into a discussion about love and money. A gal pal was irked because recently most of the guys she dated wanted to know her financial status right after a few dates. They were afraid she would become a burden on them. What is going on, what about love, compatibility and wanting to provide for his family?
I am asking this question because most of my friends grew up in very traditional households where fathers bring home paychecks and mothers stay home to run households. Back in the days that was the definition of 50/50 partnership. Nowadays, 50/50 means sharing financial responsibility equally. As a modern gal, I don't expect future hubby to support me, I can do that by myself nicely. But, from my observation, modern wives may be helping financially but lots of modern hubbies don't help out at home because they are tired at the end of the day. Of course I heard jerks justifying their laziness because they make more money than the wives. Wives are tired too at the end of a work day too even if she make less. Where is the fairness in this deal?
Of course not everyone has a trust fund or a quarter million dollar salary and it is very expensive to live nowadays especially in urban areas, therefore a couple should work together to create a future together. That being said, I have noticed lots of guys want someone to share the financial responsibility voluntarily but these same guys share domestic responsibility quite unwillingly. A male acquaintance recently spelled out criteria for a wife. This is what he wants in a wife: pretty, educated, from a good family (meaning wealthy), classy, well mannered (can't be bossy), domestic diva (willingness to cook and clean by herself), and has her own career (share financial responsibility equally). Hello, is he on drug? We asked him why would such a virtue of a woman want to be with him? He is not tall, dark or handsome. He doesn't have a kick-ass trust fund or quarter million dollar salary. Granted he has a fairly good paying job and graduated from a top university in the country. He is not looking for a partner; he is looking for someone to help him built his dream life. So while dating, are we to begin negotiating already? I think romance just goes right out the door!
Honestly I don't know what to think anymore. I used to believe the idea of finding the right person, falling in love, and working together toward a future we both want to see. But now I am getting the feeling guys are looking for someone to help pay half the mortgage, bear his children, become his dream soul mate and to cook and clean so he actually has a hot meal and clean house. I really want to tell these guys to grow up and don't expect the world because they can't provide the world. So savvy people, what are your views on this issue?
Jul 9, 2009
Jul 8, 2009
Sergio Rossi Platform Zipper Boot
Perfect Summer Blue
For reason unknown, I am a slightly obsessed with cool blue this summer. Perhaps I am feeling blue because of these yummy jewel candies. Aren't these the perfect summer accessories? Who am I kidding, these are the perfect any day of the year. Looking at these lovelies reminds me of cool sea water on a hot summer day.
-top Georg Jensen
-bottom left Chanel star ring, about $7200
-bottom right Piaget starburst brooch about $28,000 (all 3 images via Elle)
-blue sapphire with diamonds via Just Diamond
-Blue sapphire with pave diamond via Chaumet (both images via Elle)
Well, we can't all have lovely blue jewel candies, so I am willing to settle with lovely blue frocks.
-left Celine --- my favorite! I actually tried on something similar at Celine and it was to die for.
-right Balenciaga (both via Style.com)
-left Martin Grant
-Elie Saab ---how feminine and stylish (both via style.com)

Premium designers are great but who can afford to spend thousands on a dress. So I found super savvy summer blue frocks for those of us without huge salary.
-left Ali Ro $230 via Saks
-right Banana Republic $98 via BR
-Pucci coverup $675 via Saks
-Juicy $258 via Saks
If you don't want to be blue allover, what about a pop of blue with a bag or clutch. I would love to get my hands on these two babies.
-left Balenciaga $1745 via Balenciaga
-right Louise clutch $200 via Lauren Merkin

-royal blue printed hat $290 via Pucci
-Tory Burch blue floral print flip flops $45 via Nordstrom
Equipped with any of these savvy pieces this coming summer, a gal can face any hot summer day with a touch of perceived coolness. What about you, are you ready for blue yet?
-bottom left Chanel star ring, about $7200
-bottom right Piaget starburst brooch about $28,000 (all 3 images via Elle)
-Blue sapphire with pave diamond via Chaumet (both images via Elle)
Well, we can't all have lovely blue jewel candies, so I am willing to settle with lovely blue frocks.-left Celine --- my favorite! I actually tried on something similar at Celine and it was to die for.
-right Balenciaga (both via Style.com)
-left Martin Grant-Elie Saab ---how feminine and stylish (both via style.com)

Premium designers are great but who can afford to spend thousands on a dress. So I found super savvy summer blue frocks for those of us without huge salary.
-left Ali Ro $230 via Saks
-right Banana Republic $98 via BR
-Pucci coverup $675 via Saks-Juicy $258 via Saks
If you don't want to be blue allover, what about a pop of blue with a bag or clutch. I would love to get my hands on these two babies.-left Balenciaga $1745 via Balenciaga
-right Louise clutch $200 via Lauren Merkin

-royal blue printed hat $290 via Pucci
-Tory Burch blue floral print flip flops $45 via Nordstrom
Equipped with any of these savvy pieces this coming summer, a gal can face any hot summer day with a touch of perceived coolness. What about you, are you ready for blue yet?
Labels:
accessories,
jewelry n watch,
ready-to-wear,
shoes
Jul 7, 2009
I'd Rather Buy Cartier Love Bracelets
I came across this at Saks the other day and was flabbergasted at the super un-savvy price of $600. These are 18K gold bracelet by Faraone Mennella which are very similar to Cartier Love bracelets with satin bands.
The last retail price for Cartier was $475 last years. I think both are overpriced but if I have to pick one, I will pick Cartier. Which do you prefer?image: Saks
How to Clean Diamonds at Home
Jul 6, 2009
Going for Purple and Beige & It's the Thought that Counts
What I am wearing:
Purple color Emporio Armani dress
beige peep toe heels via Tod's --- one of my favorite heels
beige color ostrich clutch via Savvy Mom --- she had it custom made for her 30 years ago
Put Your Best Image Forward: What to Wear to A Job Interview
As part 2 of Put Your Best Image Forward, Michelle of Global Image Group continues with how men should dress for that important interview or meeting. To read part one, click here.
1. How should I dress for an interview in a conservative industry, such as banking, corporate law, and government?
Men should wear tailored suits: 2 buttons for a more conservative look and 3 buttons for a modern look. Interview suits are best in navy, charcoal grey or khaki beige (in the summer). Pinstriped suits appear more authoritative and are common in conservative industries. The suit should be paired with a white or light blue buttoned-down shirt. Vests and double-breasted jackets tend to be too formal. To look more polished, remember to pop on the cufflinks.
2. How should I dress for an interview in the engineering and science industries?
Men can wear a navy blazer with a white or light blue collared shirt and khaki pants. You can finish this outfit with brown or black leather soled shoes- either lace ups or loafers are fine.
3. How should I dress for an interview in the retail and service industries?
You can wear a bold tie or a birds eye suit. For the service industries, you can wear a buttoned down sweater and nice slacks. For a pants alternative, khaki gabardine pants are presentable enough.
4. What are some things that men should NOT wear an interview?
Men should not wear sports watches or chunky rubber- soled shoes.
5. What are some guidelines on makeup and grooming?
Your facial and head hair should be neat and clean-cut. You establish more credibility if you remove all facial hair.
6. What about accessories?
Your belt and briefcase should match your shoes. Dress socks should match the shoe or the pant color. White sweat socks are just for that sweating and reserved for the gym. Regardless of the industry, men should not wear any earrings or necklaces. You can wear a watch- either metal or leather- strapped. Unless you are married, you should not have any other rings on your fingers. With these tips, your appearance will be one less thing to worry about. Remember that your clothing is a reflection of you. If you look good, you’ll feel good and others will react accordingly.
I want to thank my darling gal pal for her insightful expertise. She is absolutely fabulous with her clients and a ton of fun as a shopping partner in crime. Savvy readers, I hope this will give you an edgy over competitors and good luck to anyone looking for a new career or starting one.
1. How should I dress for an interview in a conservative industry, such as banking, corporate law, and government?
Men should wear tailored suits: 2 buttons for a more conservative look and 3 buttons for a modern look. Interview suits are best in navy, charcoal grey or khaki beige (in the summer). Pinstriped suits appear more authoritative and are common in conservative industries. The suit should be paired with a white or light blue buttoned-down shirt. Vests and double-breasted jackets tend to be too formal. To look more polished, remember to pop on the cufflinks.
2. How should I dress for an interview in the engineering and science industries?
Men can wear a navy blazer with a white or light blue collared shirt and khaki pants. You can finish this outfit with brown or black leather soled shoes- either lace ups or loafers are fine.
3. How should I dress for an interview in the retail and service industries?
You can wear a bold tie or a birds eye suit. For the service industries, you can wear a buttoned down sweater and nice slacks. For a pants alternative, khaki gabardine pants are presentable enough.
4. What are some things that men should NOT wear an interview?
Men should not wear sports watches or chunky rubber- soled shoes.
5. What are some guidelines on makeup and grooming?
Your facial and head hair should be neat and clean-cut. You establish more credibility if you remove all facial hair.
6. What about accessories?
Your belt and briefcase should match your shoes. Dress socks should match the shoe or the pant color. White sweat socks are just for that sweating and reserved for the gym. Regardless of the industry, men should not wear any earrings or necklaces. You can wear a watch- either metal or leather- strapped. Unless you are married, you should not have any other rings on your fingers. With these tips, your appearance will be one less thing to worry about. Remember that your clothing is a reflection of you. If you look good, you’ll feel good and others will react accordingly.
I want to thank my darling gal pal for her insightful expertise. She is absolutely fabulous with her clients and a ton of fun as a shopping partner in crime. Savvy readers, I hope this will give you an edgy over competitors and good luck to anyone looking for a new career or starting one.
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