Nov 6, 2009

Maintaining Relationship for Love to Last & Friday Date Night

Last week, BF suddenly mentioned we had not gone out on a romantic date in a while. Both of us dress up and enjoy a romantic dinner. I think it is so easy for a couple (married or in a steady relationship) to forget romance with all the demands around us. I miss the time when we would hold hands and gaze into each other's eyes over a meal. (*don't laugh, you been there too!!!) Simply by looking at him/her from across the table, a happy feeling would bubble from within. . Everything is perfect and euphoric. This happens when a couple is newly going out or newly married uh.... (*at least to me) Now, it really cracks me up to see couples so lovely dovey with each other. I would point them out to BF and give him a look of remember-we-were-like-that-too.

What happened?

BF explained because we progressed to a different stage of our relationship. If we have kids, we will be too busy running after them to look at each other. A gal will be lucky to have a meal in peace. (*I was told!)
I didn't feel super last Friday so BF called me up and told me to get dress because he was taking me out on a romantic dinner date. I felt better after dinner! I thought the black dress was too dressy so I added a grey denim jacket to make the look more casual but dress it up again with layered necklaces in pearls and crystals.

We found this restaurant in Stanton, CA names Park Ave. The atmosphere was really nice, service was attentive, food was wonderful, and the final price was fairly reasonable. We had steaks, 2 glasses of wine, a shrimp cocktail, 2 simple salad and 2 desserts (vanilla sundae and warm butter cream cake). The final tap was $135 including tax and tip. I would never find that place and wouldn't expect anything like that in the neighborhood if BF didn't just decide we were going there. If the restaurant was in Newport Beach, our dinner including tax and tip would be closer to $200 instead. (*Forgot my camera b/c I was not my usual self.)
In the last few years, I tend to buy simple classic bags because they will stand the test of time. This YSL bag is a few years old but I still like it and will use it from time to time.
What I Am Wearing:
-black Emporio Armani jersey dress with belt
-grey Habitual denim jacket
-black YSL shoulder bag
-multi-color Sergio Rossi eel skin pumps ---I so need to buy anti-slip pads (any recommendation?) to put on the inside to prevent my feet from slipping forward. These heels are so high my toes hate me at the end. Luckily I only had to walk from the parking lot to the restaurant.
-Necklaces --- made by me. I am so excited, I have all the pictures together now and am trying to figure out retail prices for my pieces. It will be so much easier to have pictures and prices to show interested buyers.

To be honest, I think many couples forget to romance each other after awhile. (*I am guilty too!) Some butt head guy friends actually commented they married the gal already so what was the point. The point is to show appreciation and to inject some romance here and there to keep the relationship fresh. If we don't take care of a relationship, it will dry up like day-old breads. I understand there are many chores and tasks so romance is probably the last thing on the list. But, we make efforts to do other things so why not put some efforts into keeping the most important relationship fresh. Let me ask you this, when was the last time the two of you went out on a romantic date? And, what is romantic to you?

33 comments:

  1. First we chase something we want and then we chase what we had.

    Secretia

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  2. I think you need to keep the other person in the relationship guessing; surprise them with romantic gestures that bring back thoughts of when you first began courting. That seems like a good way to stay satisfied in a relationship long-term.

    Loving those Multi-Color Sergio Rossi Eel Skin Pumps, by the way! :)

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  3. I Am Denise Katipunera

    you are so super pretty and foxy in that LBD. And i love how you paired it with the colorful shoe. You look so perfect.

    i love dates. We make sure that at least twice a week we'll go out get a sushi, or coffee on a lazy afternoon or just drive and eat take outs somewhere isolated. I believe that in a relationship the top priority is each other. When my husband is home, on his day off i make sure i won't do anything. We'll watch movies all day long then go out. And it's important to really take care of that kind of romance.

    am pretty sure that your man is really romantic. Lucky you!. hihihi.

    I Am Denise Katipunera

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  4. Great dress. And I've been loving those shoes. I just use whatever pads I notice in the drug store.

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  5. Love, love your bag. You looked lovely. Here's to a romantic evening!

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  6. I always enjoy reading about your relationship. I think romance is important in a relationship. My boyfriend and I don't necessarily do romantic things, but I see romance in the little things we do for each other. But I agree that every once in awhile, it's good to get out, change the setting, have dinner, dress up, and be totally involved in each other without any distractions. Great post, Savvy.

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  7. What a lovely post Savvy! Loved reading about you & the BF!

    And you are right - YSL is classic and will always be in style!

    XOXO
    Amy

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  8. I remember those shoes! Soooo gorgeous and so perfect for you. :)
    I'm glad you had a great date night. Rian and I have not had one in MONTHS. I think we are due too! Lol.

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  9. U look so really pretty, my dear! :-) Love Ur peep toes...


    X♥X♥

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  10. yes totally agreed wif ya, dates are compulsory for a strong r/ship. without surprises or romance or impulse, the whole affair will be dull and not memorable. sadly some guys are just not appreciative to some of my bffs >.<
    long long ago, ive made it clear to my SO that dressing up and putting up makeup for me, is very very thereupeutic (is this how u spell it?) its soothing, relaxing and i always feel happy after the whole process. so he knows, he have to initiate 'dates' from time to time hehe my subtle way of telling him 'me want romance'

    xoxo elle

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  11. Great point on keeping the romance alive. It can be a tough thing to do with life being so busy sometimes. How sweet of your bf to take you out! Love your outfit and that bag. :D

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  12. Love those heels. And the last time was quite a while ago. But we have our 3 year anniversary coming up so next weekend I'm hoping for a little romance! :)

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  13. That LBD looks absolutely fab on you... and the cltch is to die for as well!

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  14. I totally agree... it takes a lot of effort to keep the magic.

    My last romantic date was a couple of nights ago. I was also told to dress up for dinner and I felt so special.

    I love your outfit and those shoes are fabulous.

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  15. It's always nice to have a night out together at a good restaurant.

    I love the shoes!

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  16. My husband and I don't have a whole lot of money to indulge a dinner out every month...although I suppose we could work it into our budget if we tried harder but we do once a month go down to the Waterfront and sit or walk around away from the crowds and stop for coffee and just talk and listen and admire nature. It's something we look forward to and it keeps us close. This weekend is our date.

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  17. Great shoes!

    My guy and I just started dating in September so the relationship is still very new. We both lead very busy lives and it feels like the most romantic of times when we find time to spend with each other, even if it's just watching a movie at his place and cuddling on the couch. :-)

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  18. Glad you guys enjoyed a nice meal!
    Great dress too :)

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  19. How sweet of your BF! It's important to keep doing those things! Love your back dress! Simple and chic!

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  20. What a sweet boyfriend! My boyfriend and I headed an hour of town a couple of weeks ago to spend an overnight at a hotel and go to a restaurant. It was just one night, but it felt like a wonderful mini vacation.

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  21. My hubbo and I try to keep the romance alive as much as possible. We almost never get to go on date nights, though, because his daughter lives with us and we like to be around for her. When she's gone, though, we have our fun.

    I love this look on you. The bag is cute, the shoes are great, and your dress is perfect!

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  22. you look hot!!! we go on dates, but I wouldn't really call them romantic! I guess our last trip to nobu was kind of romantic:)

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  23. great legs! I recently broke up with my bf, so I prefer not to think in romantic things..

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  24. Your bf sounds like a smart man! My hubby and I do a date night every weekend just to spend extra time with each other since we typically have super busy schedules that conflict.

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  25. I'm all for the chase, the excitement of new love, and the fireworks that any new relationship goes through. But what comes after that...ugh. I get bored. We start to fight. It doesn't feel good any more. Or maybe, I just haven't found my match yet :)

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  26. You look stunning. Wow.

    Also, how lucky you are to have such a lovely boyfriend that makes the effort. After all, it keeps the relationship exciting! Romance is so important. I'm glad you had a lovely time :)

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  27. nice outfit darling...when I hear something about romance I usually think about roses or hearts...and I don't know why but I've searched with the view that in your pictures ^.^
    kisses

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  28. for me everyday are romantic date. hmmpp...we always went out everyday, visiting beautiful beach and traditional village, holding hand, and sometimes he look at my eyes and suddenly surprised me by kissing my head, that was so romantic.

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  29. btw, i never post my trip or travel on this site. don't worry, you can see all my trip on my another site pongery.com. don't be surprised to see my fat body. hhmmppp...

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  30. First, I'm all about comfy shoes so I buy these and they make everything super wearable - for long periods of time.
    http://www.footpetals.com/shop/products.html?mv_arg=Foot%20Cushions

    It's true...S and I have been together for 15 years and those butterflies have evolved over the years, nevertheless I still light up when he enters a room and every now and then I'll catch him staring at me and he'll tell me I'm beautiful. LOL, cheesy I know but it just takes effort, we have weekly dates on Friday and/or Saturday. The week gets so busy so no matter what's going on that weekend we make sure to take time out just for the 2 of us, even if it's just for an hour or two. Like with anything in life, it takes effort to make it successful :)
    I'm glad you had a great time together, you looked so chic as always!

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  31. What a sweet lovely post. And you look so beautiful, my dear!!!

    xoxo

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  32. It's true, relationships are hard work! No pain no gain I guess. My guy and I hardly do romantic date things, but we just enjoy doing things together I suppose and that's good enough :)

    Oh and love your shoes!!

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  33. I have to agree that you reach a certain point in your relationship where it seems that you both no longer take the extra effort to be romantic. Well at times simply doing things that you both enjoy like playing your favorite sports or jogging together for example can spice up the relationship.

    I wish you best of luck in your relationship! Keep the flame burnin'

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