Recently I received a question from a guy wanting to know if a 3 carat cushion cut diamond is too big.
Bless his heart! There is going to be one happy gal!
As a woman, my immediately reaction was hell no! Anyway, I stopped myself and thought about it for a couple of minutes. I know I have thought about my dream ring and hope one day BF will be able to do me right by picking out the perfect ring. The one which when I see it my heart will melt and say to him, "sweetie, how do you know?!" Different women have completely different preferences, I have not met a gal yet who will turn down a 3 carat diamond but she might have an opinion about the shape and the setting. In in the end it is all about comfort level. However, I suggested he should find out her likes and dislikes. If a savvy guy wants to surprise his girlfriend then perhaps asking her best friends or family for suggestions might be a way to avoid any ring mistake. And, I don't think there is a perfect carat weight; it is all about the budget, what you can find and her preference. Some women will take a smaller diamond but want the best 4Cs. Some want the biggest rock possible and are willing to compromise on the 4Cs.
This comes to my own issue about the ring. The other day BF and I got into a brief discussion about "The Ring" only to discover we had different ideas about the ring in question. To be honest, I have some ideas about what will look good on me but don't know for certain. I figure BF will sort out the details and surprise me with my dream ring under the most romantic setting. When I told married gal pals, they all laughed and told me to take BF ring shopping to avoid nasty surprises. A gal pal eventually had her setting changed because the original was not very stylish, to put it nicely. Looking at her ring, we all said at the same time, "At least the rock is huge!" I am a little saddened by such an idea because the romantic me inside wants BF to surprise and delight me. However the rational me thinks perhaps shopping together might be wiser because both of us can figure out the right ring together when the time is right. After all, isn't two heads better than one? I just found it a bit awkward discussing color, clarity, cut and carat with BF. Yet, I am scared what if my future ring is not my dream ring if I don't tell him.
I have visited Harry Winston with a family friend and think the micro pave setting is gorgeous. However, without trying more ring styles, it is hard to determine what I will love eventually. I have always believed when the time is right, I will know exactly what I want for my ring but it is just not true. I understand the 4Cs but am clueless about what is right for me. It is so much easier when my own emotion is not involved. So let me ask you this, should couples shop for engagement rings together? I am thinking maybe we can just go browse and then he can surprise me eventually. Regardless, ultimately it is about the life we will share together and not the ring so I guess I will just take a chill pill.
***I am not getting engaged. We just talked about it since we dated for a while so congratulation is not in order.
Update on the Crazy for Bow Shoe Giveaway:
I noticed a few of my fellow shoe addict friends shared this giveaway not only on the daily post, they also added the giveaway on the sidebar. I think this act totally deserves 2 additional entries, one for Senorita and one for Destiny.
If you share this giveaway more than once with your fellow shoes addicts, let me know, each link back will earn an additional entry for both Destiny and Senorita.