Every little girl (including moi) dreams about the big wedding day: the cake, the dress, the reception, the honeymoon, beautiful flowers, all the wonderful jewel pieces and last but most important, the guy. However, what do we gals really know about life after the big wedding day? Married gals have been giving this gal an earful, I am concluding marriage is wonderful but there are certainly some unexpected surprises:
* Crazy in-law and family stories – probably all true. (Okay I am scared!)
* Hubbies are not as romantic as boyfriends. What happened to those handmade Valentine’s card? (Asked by a newly married gal pal)
* Boyfriend: honey, you should buy that bag, you deserve it.
Hubby: why do you need another bag, don’t you have enough?
* Husbands won’t take care of you like your mom. (Where are chicken soup and homemade cookies?)
* Yes, hubby will go golfing the day after you give birth. (Gal pal’s hubby did not know why she was mad)
* Marriage is between 2 families not 2 people unless both parties are orphans. (I usually listen patiently as gal pal go off on family issues)
* Wife: What happened to our romantic dates?
Hubby: Why do we need romantic dates? I marry you already! (Uh? How rude!)
* Don’t expect your partner to change for the better miraculously overnight for the better because you are married. (A guy friend was upset his stay-at-home wife won’t cook or clean but she never cleaned the years they lived together...)
* Hubby suddenly couldn’t do any house chores to save his life. (Didn’t he live alone for x numbers of year?)
* Boyfriend can shop for hours but hubbies become tired 30 seconds after setting foot into the mall. Luckily I never BF shopping. What he doesn't know won't hurt me. ~ smile (Why would a gal want a BF or hubby know exactly the cost of a Chanel bag is beyond me?)
So savvy gals, what other little surprises (delightful or otherwise) should a single gal be aware of before walking down the aisle in her Vera Wang tulle gown?
What I didn’t know about being married...
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6 savvy comments:
Whoever I marry will have a lot to put up with so I think I would let them off for playing golf. ha ha
You've got to compromise A LOT when you're married, but it's really worth it ... especially if you share interests (not all, but some big ones like if you both like hiking or movies, that sort of thing). You always have someone to accompany you for your fave activities!
If you find the right man, it's more than worth it, but finding the right guy (for you) is the key.
My advice to my girlfriends has always been, there should be NO change between dating and marriage. If there is, you weren't dating long enough before marriage. Nothing about Thatboy has changed since we got married. He isn't more or less romantic, we have "date nights" just as much, he was never good at taking care of me when I was sick, and he was never patient at the mall! For me, the only difference between dating and marriage is that I finally have a roommate that doesn't drive me crazy.
My husband played golf the day I came home from the hospital with my son, so my mom and friend had to bring me home. Those sayings were funny!
I guess my advice to someone getting married, is that you are making a commitment and you are not always going to be happy, but it is just like any other relationship. You can get really pissed off with you kids, but you still love them, and you don't get rid of them.
If you get crazy in family/inlaws, just be the bigger person and let it roll off your back if you can.
Are you engaged???? If so, how exciting.
Continued dating is important. Go out at least weekly.
Romance isn't about flowers and chocolate (though that is nice) it's those actions that show that you are putting your mate first, and would do all you can to make their life better. Because if each partner puts the other first, everyone's needs will be met.
Thanks for dropping by my site earlier. Hope to see you again.
I think if you get to know a guy very well while dating and living together, you can avoid lots of surprises.
Know that you must compromise, and know that your guy must be completely acceptable to you the way he is today, and you'll be fine.
I wonder about your boyfriend, will he propose? Do you want him to?
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