Since we are officially hitting the holiday party season, I think this post is quite appropriate. So let me ask you this, have you ever been to a bar, or a function finding yourself asking why is that woman or guy so popular? Why is that person getting all the attention? What are they doing right?
After taking a communication class, I realized the importance of non-verbal communication between individuals. Like it or not, we judge others base on our first impression. Therefore, project the right image and body language set the tone from the beginning. We think of communication as verbal only, but that is only 8% to 15% of communication process between individuals. Rest of communication process, which is up to 92%, is actually non-verbal.
So to communicate you are a confident attractive person, what is a gal/guy to do?
***First of all, if you want to attract people to you, then it's important to keep your body in open position. This means no folding arms across the chest.
***Do not hide yourself in the corner of the room, instead, you can become center of attention by standing in the middle of the room. Basically, put yourself out there!
***Remember to keep a smile on your face and keep eye contact(don't look away too quickly but don't stare)if you are interested in further communication.
***Last, just have fun and be yourself. When a person tries to be someone else, invariably he or she always behaves in a really strange fashion, which is unattractive.
Using these non-verbal cues, you are telling onlookers, yes I am available and open for communication. Now I know why gal pals always receive free drinks. So savvy guys and gals, do you put yourself out there to become the center of attention?
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10 savvy comments:
what you say is quite interestin ! but i think u become popular when u've got confidence and an effortlessly chic look
Don't forget not to flip people the bird. I've found if you walk around with your middle fingers up, you don't make a lot of friends.
I had to laugh at WendyB's comment.
Yes fingers don't make friends.
I can be total introvert sometimes. I will therefore do none of the things you mentioned. I have to agree with Ray. (Mr. Style) being confident and being chic does help.
oh oh oh.. forgot. Loving the new blog design. It's clean and elegant. Your brother helped you?
Songy: Twisted my brother's arm into helping me. Actually, helping means he does all the work and I just wait for the result. I am completely helpless.
Wendy is right, no middle finger please. Actually being stylish is a given factor already. Being confident is about putting yourself out there and having the courage to go out and mingle knowing not everyone will embrace you or make you feel welcome.
LOL great comments.
Confidence is everything, I agree.
I am always myself at parties and get-togethers. It's too difficult to be someone else.
Open body language and an easy smile really help to draw people to you.
Also, paying a genuine compliment works wonders.
Hah, funny comments! Getting the right kind of 'attention' is most important...no cheesy-creepy attention please... ;) Dang! It's getting harder to get sincererity these days!
The new blog design is great, I like it a lot.
And yes, non-verbal communication is very important and sometimes people don't realize that they're sending the wrong message.
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